Saturday, June 25, 2011

When the going gets tough, women go for softies

Contrary to popular belief, when a damsel is in distress a macho man just doesn't cut it, according to new research.

The gentle, effeminate type such as High School Musical's Zac Efron and Hollywood heart-throb Robert Pattinson are the men for difficult financial straits, new findings suggest, while strong silent types are no longer in favour.

The study was conducted to see whether money and health worries affect the type of woman a man finds attractive.

Sixty five young women were given one of three questionnaires to fill in.

One was designed to make the woman feel worry about her finances, another about her health. A third, neutral questionnaire included questions about belief in the paranormal.

They were then presented with a list of character traits and asked to choose those which belong to their ideal man.

Overall, women put most emphasis on the "good dad" traits, which meant they preferred men who were seen as good providers, gentle and kind.

Those who presented high levels of anxiety about their finances shunned masculine, rugged men such as Sean Bean and Kirk Douglas, the Royal Society journal Biology Letters report has found.

The study, conducted by Australian researchers, suggests that women with money woes look for kinder types, seen as good providers who will stick around when times get tough.

Conversely, women who were made to worry about their health were most drawn to attractive, macho men.

The researchers say this could be because masculinity can often be a sign of good genes, which women would like to pass on to their children.

The study concluded there are evolutionary advantages in a women's taste in men being flexible. This would allow the woman to "adapt their preferences to rapid changes in the environment such as pathogen outbreak or a famine," they said.
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Monday, February 7, 2011

Dating After A Break-Up


Dating after a failed relationship is never easy. There are so many emotions you are facing. Disappointment, rejection, anger, and depression can affect how you feel about finding someone new. If you have just recently broken off a relationship with someone that was long-term, it is especially difficult to get back into the dating pool.
It is okay to cry, scream, get depressed, and not shower for a few days because of the sadness and depression you are going through. However, staying like that for a long period of time is not good. Allow time to reflect on your past relationship, but then move on. Take time for yourself before considering a new relationship. Give yourself time to heal and get over all of your negative feelings.
If you don’t allow yourself time to adjust, you will not be ready to move on. There’s nothing worse than finding a new person but bringing old baggage into that new relationship. You also don’t want the new person in your life to feel jealous of your past relationships. It’s never a good idea to discuss them so making sure you’re ready for a new relationship is important. Dating on the rebound is not productive.
Keep in mind that once you start dating again, you don’t need to rush into a serious relationship. Allow yourself the chance to date around. Enjoy your new relationships and go to fun places like amusement parks, bowling, and mini-golf. This will help keep your dates fun and not too serious. Also, don’t stereotype your dates before getting to know them. Just because you had a relationship that went sour doesn’t mean you shouldn’t give anybody new a chance.
Family and friends may want to help you feel better by introducing you to new people. They may offer to set you up on new dates.  Don’t feel pressured into dating right away.  It’s okay to let them know you are not ready to move on. You may want to start getting together with your friends more.
Enjoy your newfound freedom. It’s healthy to take time out.  Many people make the mistake of jumping right back into a relationship. Some are afraid of being alone. This kind of fear can at times cause you to meet the wrong people. All of us have an innate desire to be with someone, but we must be careful in choosing who that person is.
Once you are ready to move on and start dating, go slow. There are many ways in which you can meet someone new. A co-worker may know of someone that will fit your personality well.  Blind dates can be fun as long as your expectations aren’t too high. You may decide to join a singles group or an online dating service. Singles groups offer great activities to meet people in a fun, relaxing environment.
It’s a great way for people who are shy to meet others. If you’ve just broken off a relationship singles groups and outings will help you to emotionally feel better and keep you away form that “poor me” feeling some of us get after failed relationships. Stay positive and keep thinking that you will eventually find that special someone.
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